“You know what? This isn’t what I want to wear. I may not look the way I want to look right now, but I’m okay with that because I feel fierce inside. So, it will get there.”
"Clarity for me, which was recent, is that I don’t have so much pressure put upon myself by me and my expectations. As long as I know I’m trying and applying myself every day I know I’ll get there, wherever there is for me.
In the past, if I had to get dressed for a special occasion, I’d throw everything out of my closet. If I couldn’t find anything that fit the way I wanted it to, and didn’t look the way I wanted it to look, it would just throw me into a tailspin.
Recently, something happened. A holiday came up. What can I wear? I put on one or two and I’m said to myself, “You know what? This isn’t what I want to wear. I may not look the way I want to look right now, but I’m okay with that because I feel fierce inside. So, it will get there.”
I think that’s a huge part, emotionally, psychologically, for anybody who’s working out, especially women of a certain age.If you take that expectation out of the equation, you’re going to succeed no matter what. You don’t have to self impose a deadline and that expectation that something has to happen sooner than it realistically can, because as you get older things take a different time frame than they did when you were younger. And that’s okay, and I think as long as people apply themselves every day and feel good about that, that’s what’s going to get you to wherever you want to be.
It’s a feel-good thing. It’s like an inside coming-to-terms with your effort that I think should override whatever the external visual is. I’ve got more of this to put in before I see what I want to see, and I’m okay with the time frame. Big shift."
—Darleen H. of Monroe, NY